"Whether you think you're right or you think you're wrong, you're right!" - Henry Ford
I'm much more aware of this now, for myself and others. We hold certain beliefs and we will usually do whatever it takes to make our beliefs true.
Consider these three examples:
- The guy who is uncomfortable with learning public speaking skills. Rather than give the class a chance, he finds reasons why this isn't going to work.
- The woman who, when she finally meets a guy who treats her well, finds a reason why he's "not the one" such as "he looks OK, but he doesn't really have the look I'm going for."
- The student who believes that everyone else breezes through school and gives up before even attempting to study.
Versions of these scenarios occur countless times in a day. What are you "right" about? What is the cost? Can you afford to be just a wee bit wrong and if so, how do things change?
We can get stuck in believing a certain thing about ourselves and will ignore any information that proves the contrary belief. This is often something of which we're unaware and is very limiting. It can set up a road block that keeps us from fully living our lives.
For now, it's enough to just get curious and notice how you feel when you hold a particular belief? Is it resourceful? Do you feel good? If it doesn't feel good, are you ready for a change of heart?