Sometimes the right words, heard at the right time, can make all the difference in helping you set a new course. The message may be direct or indirect, spoken aloud, sent in a text or an email, relayed in first, second or third person, read in a blog post or book, or heard in a movie. When the words are heard, not only with the ears, but with the heart, as well, a shift occurs – sometimes cataclysmic in nature, other times so subtly that it almost seems imperceptible.
There are times when the same message is oft-repeated, and then finally it hits home, usually when someone else says the same thing. (Isn’t this a common comment from spouses? “I’ve told him that many times, but why does it take a stranger to make an impact?”
Perception change: Think of it as laying the foundation for change!
Examples may be shared, reasons explained, the right note set and learning, change and growth occurs.
Below, under a diverse range of categories, you’ll find a sampling of wisdom from some of my favourite people. Over the years, I’ve not only learned from them, but have also been inspired by them. I’ve met with them in person and virtually; many have become friends.
I asked everyone for one sentence of advice, which proved to be a challenge. I think they met it admirably, don’t you?
After the Job Interview
Ronnie Ann Himmel – 25 Things To Do While Waiting To Hear Back from a Job Interview: “Rather than stressing to the max about each word you said in the interview or why they aren’t getting back to you (it’s normal), you could instead use the waiting time to take positive action: (1) learn a relevant new skill or improve on one you already have; (2) follow up wisely, but not too often (you can mention the new skill or a related accomplishment); and (3) keep looking for a new job until you accept an actual offer!”
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Cynthia St-Pierre – Vegetarian Detective, Fashionation with Mystery and co-author of A Purse to Die For: “Dare to approach with friendship: 2006, Bloody Words, Canada’s now-retired national mystery conference…I had just come out of a 15 min. interview with an agent and was feeling a little shaky; in the shadows of an escalator stood a woman who looked just about as antsy as me so I walked over and introduced myself, which miraculously led to a published mystery co-written with my new friend—and a sequel coming this fall.”
Liz Kislik – How Customer Service Can Neglect Customer Care: “If service employees focus too much on procedures, their behavior or language can actually neglect the very customers they’re meant to serve.”
Dawna Jones – From Insight to Action, Evolutionary Provocateur podcast and author of Decision Making for Dummies: “To avoid making a decision based on fear (bound to fail), check in with your emotions and then replace negative feelings with positive heartwarming mix of excitement and optimism.”
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Jacqui Barrett-Poindexter – Resume Story – How to Emote Tenacity: “Before you begin shuffling words across the page, you must understand the characteristics and needs of your focus industry, company and/or leadership. ”
Dorlee Michaeli – Social Work Career: “To experience more joy and have the strength to face life’s hurdles, be willing to be compassionate with yourself, and brave enough to share your mistakes/rough patches with a trustworthy friend.”
I almost forgot to include myself in this post! When No One Is Watching, Including Yourself. “Develop your awareness as you go about your day – notice how you feel emotionally, mentally and physically.”
Beth Havey – Boomer Highway and author of A Mother’s Time Capsule: “On any given day, writing is my escape, my lover, my intellectual stimulation as I seek and often find the right word, the exact phrase—or I dream about finding it; either way, I go to writing to find myself, always hoping to give back something of value to my readers.”
Writing with a Chronic Illness
Lene Andersen – Creating a Writing Habit for Writers with Chronic Illness and author of Your Life with Rheumatoid Arthritis – Tools for Managing Treatment, Side-Effects and Pain: “Don’t compare yourself to anyone else — especially not if you have a chronic illness or chronic pain — just write in a way that feels good to you.”